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Take a Break.

No, this is not an ad for KitKat (however if KitKat did want to sponsor, would be 100% game). You may have noticed recently my blog posts have been a little more sparse. Why? Because I gave myself a break, and much to my surprise the world did not end.

I was feeling uninspired and much to my surprise, my imagination seemed to be failing me - for a creative person who can't get out of her own head, I felt as though I'd lost myself when my mind became empty.

At first, I found myself feeling down, and napping a little too often (odd, but there may be a post on this coming soon). with developed to feeling sad, and having nothing to write about. My mind was blank, and my body felt tired - and in turn, I felt guilty, for not posting on my blog. Although my blog earns me no money, I still want it to success, and place that fills me with pride. How was I going to get anything out of it, when I felt unable to put anything into it?

Then I decided, to stop forcing it, mainly because there was nothing left to force. I stopped allowing blogging to be my main concern and started looking for my happiness, and following my need to rest.

I took naps, a lot of them. I started reading again. I worked at my job - where I began allowing myself to enjoy it, I laughed at podcasts, I crocheted and watched  Netflix. And my little space on the internet has not moved. It has just sat waiting for me.

I, however, feel like a new person. That motivation I was looking for has found me, and I'm excited to pick up where I left off, while somewhere near there, where the glass is slightly greener.

I've learnt the importance of listening to your body, and that ultimately, you'll become a better version of yourself if you allow yourself the time that you need to just be.

Both mentally and creatively I feel the break has flipped my attitude and allowed me to refuel. I am no longer running on empty and once again feel as though I can, and want to create content I am proud of, be productive, and feel content within myself.

Sometimes it's nice to see back while the world turn and something in the stillness of the spinning creates the spark you forgot you had.

The Outfit Details:
Playsuit (underneath shirt): ASOS (old, similar here)
Necklace: Warehouse (old, similar here)
Shoes: Next (old)
Hat: River Island (old, similar here)
Watch: Olivia Burton (similar here)
Earrings: Whistles (similar here)

I'd love to hear what you think of this outfit! I struggled with what to style the shirt dress with, but I think the simple black playsuit underneath worked, and the hat adds an effortless finishing touch!

I hope this post was a reminder to take the break you need! I can't wait to get back into the swing of blogging, if you don't already follow me on bloglovin' make sure you do to keep up to date.

Chloe x


July Favourites.

Alas, I actually have a new video up on my Youtube Channel, and being a spontaneous favourites video, I, of course, missed out some thing which I really wanted to talk about so here are three more of my July Favourites:

The Debrief Podcast - I actually decided to film a favourites video with the main intention of speaking about this Podcast, I then typically forgot to speak about it. I love everything about this podcast, Tessa and Stevie are hilarious - I've had a fair amount of strange looks for laughing on public transport whilst listening to this. The topics are also relatable and interesting, and so are Tessa and Stevie, plus they give some pretty good advice too. Very much feels like you have some of your pals chatting in your ear, having a great time whilst you all try to get your lives together. Would strongly recommend.

Milk and Honey by Rupi Kaur - I have found myself reaching for Milk and Honey a lot this month when looking for a quick for words or reassurance or understanding. I'm sure you've all read (or at least heard of) Milk and Honey so I won't go on about it too much. But this collecction of poetry is just something special and very real.

Whistles Coin Purse - I have swapped in my ordinary purse, for a little coin purse. I mainly bought it so I'd have something to fit in the little handbag which I talk about in my monthly favourites video (below), and I have converted to using it all the time. It means I carry less crap in my purse - I had some many cards which never used left the slot in my purse, now they stay at home (or in the bin where they belong). It will fit in any bag, and I like the sleek design. I'm definitely enjoying have simplified things in the purse department.

And as you can see from the tease of a photograph, these are not my only favourites from the month, I wanted to keep this post short and sweet but there are many more lovely things included in this video, enjoy x


Crazy, Curious and Drunk.

I am going to attempt to type out some thoughts which I can't make the head of tail of - so if this post makes no sense to you, you are not the only one. And if it does, I'm impressed, and hope I manage to make sense of these thoughts too.

I often get branded the crazy girl. I guess I get lost in my own head a lot, and I'm not going to lie - sometimes maybe I come across crazy. Maybe I get drunk (not in an alcoholic drinking myself on the street corner way, in vodka shots on a night out with friends kind of way) and text a little too much, or I'm too open about my feelings too early on - and that's what makes someone crazy, right?


But we obsess over loads of things, let's be honest. I obsess over anything from Harry Styles to Harry Potter. But nobody is ever like fuck that girl is crazy, she really likes Harry Styles - they might politely disagree and say his hair is stupid (which it's not, by the way), but that disagreement usually comes as an insult to what I'm obsessing over, rather than my obsession. There are many things I obsess over - but they don't make me crazy, they make me human. Everyone has their things.

However, when we seem to really like a person, the person in question often thinks we're crazy for liking them. Which, personally I think is utterly bizarre. It may be a little irritating when somebody wants to speak to you - but take the compliment, baby.

But I'm not crazy for reading Harry Potter over and over again, I am however bloody bonkers for texting a boy that I fancy too much. I just don't understand this notion.

When we are attracted to a person, we do obsess over them, it weird, I agree, but humans are weird, and it's human nature to think a little too fondly of somebody who you really wanna kiss. It's normal to see them in a somewhat unnatural light because your idea of them is tainted by your attraction toward them.

What I wonder, is why does that make me less attractive? Why does somebody like me less because they're aware I like them? I'm sure to an extent, this is human nature too, but I just think it's a little fucked up. I don't want feeling curiousity about someone to leave me counting kissing on a text, or feeling like I should hold back. I've always felt curiosity is something I should follow - but what about when I'm curious about another person? Because it is socially unacceptable to try too hard. And, yes, I think it's always crystal clear when someone doesn't feel the same and it's time to put down the phone. However, different people bring different things to your life. So, sometimes, you might just be about figuring out where to place a person and your emotions towards them. That initial confusion, of course, leads us to curiosity.

I feel as though I am not the only one to look through my drunken night out text from the night before and really cringe, usually about how forward I've been. I probably then feel anxious about seeing that person until the next time I do see them, because I'm aware, there is a likelihood they think I'm crazy, and there is also a chance if, they are a really rubbish person, they've laughed about what I've said with their friends, and I am so aware that is not the person I want in my life. Yet it's always a worry because you never know with that situation before it's too late, and of course, if somebody wants to portray you as crazy, no matter who you are, it's not that difficult to do.

 But seriously, if someone drunkenly texts you, just clear the air the next day, because if you did just think, fuck they had too much to drink last night, oh well as they just wanted to chat or whatever - which I have always thought when I've received a drunken message, the text sender is probably feeling very anxious about how poorly you must think of them, for simply not holding back when they wanted to talk to you. And then, text sender is in a lose lose situation, because you're always concerned they think your crazy, and you're so anxious about it, it's playing on your mind so much that you're thinking fuck maybe I'm crazy, and you're too concerned with being 'crazy' to clear the air yourself - but as I said there is nothing crazy about being attracted to a person.

I think I misconception behind drunken messages is in the weight behind them. Just to confirm, no my drunk texts, do not mean I spend my evenings making a scrapbook of our future wedding or choosing names for our children - it simply means, in that vodka fueled moment, I would quite like attention, and preferably yours. It does not mean I have a shrine of you in my bedroom, or I've begun telling people you're my boyfriends, it just that maybe, I fancied a drunk snog, or possibly I feel like chatting shit to you whilst eating some cheesy chips. Also, that who drunken mind, sober heart saying, is indeed bullshit.

Another thing, which I think may factor into the crazy vibe, is funnily enough - that I'm female. Yes, that. I have received a drunken text from guys, and the next just have been like don't worry about it - however, I might drunken text someone, who has previously done this to me and have woken up with a fuck I'm crazy paranoia, which to confirm - I'm not. Why do I feel assured they're not crazy, but question myself? I've never got the impression that the men who have drunkenly text me have felt ashamed or embarrassed about their behaviour - yet, I show the same behaviour and it feels completely unacceptable the next morning. And it's a bloody two-way street when they've done it to me, yet I am red with embarrassment thinking about it and I'm the only one who is.

And now let's get to self-respect and desperation. I am going to keep this points short because although I want to touch on this, it is not something I feel a strong desire to shove down your throats. Just because someone may perceive me as crazy, that does not mean I am desperate or lack self-respect. What somebody else thinks of me, is a reflection on them, not of me. I do fully believe if someone doesn't make an effort to you, you sure as hell stop using your energy on them, because you should get out what you put in. However, in the early days of meeting someone, when you are just placing what you want from them, the lines are a little more blurred. Those lines also can blur more as you decide what you want from them, as a 25-year-old woman, I don't want a relationship with everyone one I fancy - however I think that's easily forgotten.  And again, when alcohol involved lines blur even more, and you don't text because you lack self-respect - you text because you wanna say something, and honesty is something I neither perceive as desperate or disrespectful of yourself.

 On a side note - I'm not sure the poem in the image completely relates, but I liked it nonetheless, it's from Milk and Honey by Rupi Kaur.


Book Shelf Tour and Recommendations..

After have to squeeze all my new books on top of the rest, because I am a slight book hoarder, I decided it was probably the time to rearrange my bookshelf, and clear a bit of space so everything could fit nicely - so I cleared a shelf, rather than having 2 shelves for book, I now have three. I spent a bit of time putting them in colour order, because uh, it looks great.

Rather than doing a tour of my book shelf which I've done before here. Today I thought I'd do a bit more of a specific book based post - with my recommendations, to read list etc.

The Top Shelf

 Contents from left to right:
The Allure of Chanel by Paul Morand, Now We Are Six by A. A. MilneThe Million Dollar Blog by Natasha Courtenay SmithAfter You by Jojo MoylesThe Life Changing Magic of Tidying by Marie KondoThe Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k by Sarah KnightThe Perks of Being a Wallflower by Stephen ChboskyEverything Everything by Nicola YoonThe Other Half of Happiness by Ayisha Malik, Brave Enough by Cheryl StrayedThe Aniexy Solution by Chloe BotheridgeA Quiet Kind of Thunder by Sara BarnardIf I was Your Girl by Meredith RussoBecoming by Laura Jane WilliamsAn Abundance of the Katherines by John GreenOn the Other Side by Carrie Hope FletcherThe Modern Love by Will Darbyshire, Now We Are Six (I've only just realised I've got two copies of that?!), Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch AlbonThe Sun is also a Star by Nicola YoonGirl Online Going Solo by Zoe SuggDon't Sweat the Small Stuff by Richard CarlsonEveryday by David Levithan.

Still on my to Read List:
-  The Million Dollar Blog by Natasha Courtenay Smith
The Other Half of Happiness by Ayisha Malik
The Aniexy Solution by Chloe Botheridge
Becoming by Laura Jane Williams

Fiction Recommendations:
The Perks of Being a Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky,
Everything, Everything by Nicola Yoon
A Quiet Kind of Thunder by Sara Barnard
If I was Your Girl by Meredith Russo
Everyday by David Levithan

Non-Fiction Recommendations:
The Life Changing Magic of Tidying by Marie Kondo
Brave Enough by Cheryl Strayed
The Modern Love by Will Darbyshire
Don't Sweat the Small Stuff by Richard Carlson

Have Previously Reviewed:
Everything, Everything by Nicola Yoon review here
A Quiet Kind of Thunder review here
This Modern Love review here
Everyday by David Lethivan review

The Middle Shelf

Contents from Left to Right:
It's Not How Good You Are It's How Good You Want to Be by Paul ArdenIcons of Fashion: The 20th Century by Gendra BuxbaumHumans of New York by Brandon StantonThe Diary of A Young Girl by Anne FrankCtrl Alt Delete: How I Grew Up Online by Emma Gannon, Everything Everything by Nicola Yoon (yes, I have two copies of this!), The Opposite of Loneliness by Marina Keegan, Bloom by Estée Lalonde, Beautiful Broken Things by Sara BarnardWe Were Liars by E. LockhartThe Potion Diaries by Amy AlwardBilly and Me by Giovanna FletcherCalm by Micheal Acton SmithGirl Online by Zoe SuggGirl Online on Tour by Zoe SuggThe Bricks that Built the Houses by Kate TempestThe One We Fell in Love with by Paige ToonBig Magic by Elizabeth GilbertWill Grayson Will Grayson by John Green and David LevithanAll The Bright Places by Jennifer NivenHigh Fidelity by Nick HornbyHow to Style your Brand by Fiona Humberstone

Still on my to read list:
The Diary of A Young Girl by Anne Frank
The Potion Diaries by Amy Alward
The Bricks that Built the Houses by Kate Tempest
How to Style your Brand by Fiona Humberstone
The Opposite of Loneliness by Marina Keegan

Fiction Recommendations:
We Were Liars by E. Lockhart
All The Bright Places by Jennifer Niven

Non-Fiction Recommendations:
Humans of New York by Brandon Stanton
Ctrl Alt Delete: How I Grew Up Online by Emma Gannon
Calm by Micheal Acton Smith
Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert

Previously Reviewed
Ctrl Alt Delete review here
We Were Liars reviewed here
Bloom by Estée Lalonde review here
Big Magic post here

The Bottom Shelf

Contents from Left to Right:
Chanel: the Legend and the Life by Justine Picardie, Harry Potter and the Cursed Child by J.K. Rowling and John Tiffany, 100 Years of Fashion Illustration by Cally Blackman, Read This if You Want to Take Great Photographs by Henry Carroll, The Great Gatsby by F Scott Fitzgerald, The Night Circus by Erin Morgenstein, The Girl On The Train by Paula Hawkins, Pretty Little Liars by Sara Sheppard, A Monster Calls by Patrick Ness, The Sky is Everywhere by Jandy Nelson, Another Day by David Levithan, Paper Towns by John Green, Thirteen Reason Why by Jay Asher, Prince of Thieves by Chuck Hogan, Make Up by Michelle Phan, The Version of Us by Laura Barnett, I Was Here by Gayle Forman, Peter Pan by J. M Barry, You Know Me Well by Nina LaCour David LevithanFan Girl by Rainbow Rowell, Nina is Not Ok by Shappi Khorsandi

Still on my To Read List:
Harry Potter and the Cursed Child by J.K. Rowling and John Tiffany
A Monster Calls by Patrick Ness
Prince of Thieves by Chuck Hogan
The Version of Us by Laura Barnett

Fiction Recommendations:
The Great Gatsby by F Scott Fitzgerald
The Night Circus by Erin Morgenstein
Paper Towns by John Green
Thirteen Reason Why by Jay Asher
Nina is Not Ok by Shappi Khorsandi

Non-Fiction Recommendations:
Read This if You Want to Take Great Photographs by Henry Carroll

Previously Reviewed:
13 Reasons Why review here
Paper Towns by John Green review here
The Night Circus review here

So that was a little long winded but I hope it inspired you to pick up a book!
Also worth noting, there are, of course, other books I love, which I just don't keep on my bookcase (Harry Potter - obviously, Looking for Alaska etc)

Please let me know if you have any book recommendations also!



Today, I thought it would be nice to share a makeup look I've been enjoying recently, as it's been a while since I've posted beauty, and I've definitely been enjoying my reflection in the mirror when I've to finish carefully smearing it across my face.

This is a pretty classic look with an orange-red lip and winged liner. It is also very simple and doesn't use too many products.

Products used (all of which are linked!):
IT Cosmetics Your Skin but Better CC Cream in Light
Bourjois  Healthy Mix Concealer in Light
Hourglass Ambient Light Powder in Luminous Light
Tanya Burr Beautifully Defined Palette Champagne Shimmer Highlight and Caramel Kiss Bronzer
Maybelline Master Brow Pro Palette in Soft Brown
Marc Jacobs Brow Tamer
Nars Smudge Proof Eyeshadow Primer
Becca Champagne Pop as eyeshadow
Tom Ford Eye Defining Pen
Maybelline Lash Sensational Mascara
Kiko Lavishly Intense Lip Pencil in 03 (no longer available, sorry!)
Mac Lady Danger

What do you think?

6 Loves: Blogs.

I thought I'd throw a little positivity into the blogosphere today, and share some of my favourite people of the internet with you. This is going to be the first part in a little series, beginning with my favourite blogs. I've got to be honest I struggled to narrow it down, but these are the ones I've found myself reading most recently.

Wish Wish Wish -The Photography on Carrie's blog is stunning, she has got her style down. Carrie travels plenty,  so you're sure to feel that wanderlust when scrolling. Not only is the photography flawless, but her writing is relatable. I recently read this post on Instagram and loved every single thing she said.

Grace Francesca - I think Grace is one of the most real, honest people I have come across in the blogosphere, she such a  girl boss. I love everything about her blog, the raw honesty and relatability. She is just very inspiring. Her recent post,  'Why I Started Blogging' was such a positive reflection on the world of blogging, and I found it really interesting to hear why somebody so successful started out!

Jaynie Shannon x - Jaynie is my BFF IRL, and she also has a great blog. If you're into reading beauty, it's the place to go. Her pictures a crisp and her she writes the best beauty pieces. Her writing also really just sounds like her, reading Jaynie's blog, I feel like I am just having a chat with her.

Madeliine Grace Blogs - Madi is someone else I know IRL. I love reading her blog, her style of writing just sits well with me, it's easy and interesting to read. Her blog has a diary feel to it, which I love.

The Cornish Life - I don't live in Cornwall, but this blog has given me some serious envy of those who do. Just looking at Anna's blog brings a calmness over me, the photography is full of beautiful blue landscapes. Anna is so relatable and in general a really nice girl. The Cornish Life is a great lifestyle blog where you can read everything from places to visit in Cornwal to leading an echo friendly life. I loved her recent post 'Summer. This is it', it was such a great reminder to not let time slip away.

Wonderful--you - I love Megs writing for wonderful you, there is a true honesty to it, which makes it so relatable, and all of Megs writing is very heartfelt. Meg works with her friend Alexandra to get the most amazing, editorial style photography for the blog. Along with the sleek layout, this gives it a real profession magazine feel.

What are your favourite blogs?


The New Years Resolutions 7 Months On.

It is the start of July, so we are officially over half way through the year. I'm sure, like me, you're all freaking out about where 2017 is going.

I decided to refresh my brain and look at my New Years Goals which I set for myself at the start of the year, to see if any of them are actually happening and which ones have gone out of the window completely. Hopefully, this will give me some focus for the remainder of the year.

1) Be Better at Replying to Text and Emails - this has definitely gone out of the window, I'm still completely rubbish at it

2) No more social breadcrumbing - I do think I've improved slightly on this one, I'm getting better at not saying 'let's go for coffee' in passing, although I definitely do it sometimes.

3) Be more proud of my blog and youtube - This one is actually happening. I've got some pride in the things I create now. I've even made a facebook page for my blog (here), so the people I know IRL can see the stuff which I was once embarrassed to talk about too!

4) Take better care of my belongings - I feel like I'm improving on this one. I'm definitely a lot tidier which tends to come hand in hand with looking after things.

5) Save some money - uhh about that...

6) Go to life drawing classes - I've not done this, but there is still time.

7) Post spoken word on my youtube - I technically did this, and then took it down. It is something I intend to do again, just when I'm feeling a little happier poetry.

8) Meet more like-minded people, make friends - I am getting better at this one. I've definitely met more like minded people this year, but there is still room for improvement.

9) Pass my driving test - I'm still having lessons, but I can't see any reason I wouldn't pass by the end of the year.

10) Go to acting lessons - This is something I recently began doing.

11) Look after myself more - In some ways, I do this, in some ways I don't.

12) Keep doing me - I'm 100% feeling more comfortable with who I am at the moment.

I'm pleasantly surprised looking back over those, although I definitely haven't stuck to some of them, some of my goals for the year I've been putting into action! Did you have any goals for 2017?



Sex. Am I really typing out some thoughts on sex to post online? Yes, I am. I tend to talk feel the urge to write about whatever is on my mind - and today, sex is. Not, in I am really horny and would quite like sex right now way. more like, I'm trying to work out how being single, and sex play into each other.

If you are a family member of mine, this is definitely time for you to close the tab and do something else. If you are not, grab a cuppa because I feel like this may be a long post.

If you read my post on dating, you will see I mentioned there I'm not having any sex. A little TMI, but there you have it, it has been while, to say the least.

I feel as though I go through phases with sex, and at the moment, I've pretty much taken my virginity back steered clear of any penis. That's not because I don't want sex because let's face it, everyone wants sex, everyone enjoys sex, as a society we're pretty damn obsessed with it. And it's also not as though I don't have the opportunity, a couple of swipes on Tinder and I could get lucky.
And even if I didn't want to sleep with someone from Tinder, there have been opportunities, because like I said, everyone wants sex. And there have been times I've wanted to. But I've felt the need to stop myself.

Goddamnit Chloe.

I am slut shaming myself? Will I feel like a slut if I have sex with someone I want to have sex with?Even if I were a slut, what is the issue with that? It's my body to do what I want with.

I would never judge another person depending on their sexual experiences, so why do I place such judgment on myself?

You don't have sex and you're frigid, you do and you're a slut, you come pretty close to it, but stop through fear of being called a slut, and congratulations, you're now a tease.

But does it matter which of these things you are? As long as sex is consensual on both parts, it's all good right?

And then they are feeling. I'm sure many girls have thought, if I charm him with my vagina, he might catch the feelings, and he doesn't then you feel used and stupid. Sex won't make someone fall in love with you, contrary to what the rom coms tell you.

But what if I don't want them to fall in love with me?
Why do we attach so many emotions to sex? Even if I don't want them to fall in love with me, I need to think about this, a lot.

I completely believe sex can just be sex, it came mean nothing. If you're in the right frame of mind, doing it with the right person and know exactly where you stand. But maybe no if it becomes a regular thing, or you feel the desire to text every day for updates on their life the week after.

And then there are fuckboys. I've got to be honest, I can't help at least you know where you stand with a fuckboy, there is no confusion, you know what it is. So why not fuck the fuckboy. It's just sex after all - but then there is a worry, of that post sex hangover, where you feel pretty crappy about yourself. Also, fucking a fucking boy is kind of shooting yourself in the foot. You're setting yourself up for disappointment.

And then there is love, is love a requirement for sex? Well, no it's not - but give it a bit of love, and then maybe I won't feel so cheap in the morning. Having said that, we've got desires, so why shouldn't we enjoy ourselves if we're not in love. I mean, we're not having those loved up butterflies, so we may as well deserve an orgasm once in a while.

We are at our most vulnerable when we have sex. Sex in an intimate thing. Which I guess in my eyes means the thought of it is a little intimidating - when it gets to actually doing it, it's fine, but the thought can make me nervous, and I don't know if that's normal.

I don't want to be a slut, I also don't know if I want a relationship, and just because I'm out of a relationship why does that restrict my rights to have sex? And why do I put so much weight in the word slut?

At the end of the day, sex is just sex, and it means different things to different people, which I guess makes it confusing and encouraged this stream of thoughts. I think everyone is completely entitled to have a little or a much or no consensual sex with whoever they wish, but my own personal preference I'm unsure of.

I'd love to hear your thoughts!

June Favourites: The Skincare and Beauty Edit.

June is pretty much over, it's flown by, but as always, I have a small pile of the bits I've been enjoying throughout the month to share with you. I've decided to just streamline this post down to just skincare and beauty bits, but if you want to see the rest of the lifestyle bits I've been loving, my full June Favourites video is below.

Molecule 01 Escentric Molecule Perfume - The wasn't included in my favourite video, mainly because I forgot about it, but at least it gives a added bonus to the blog post. I wear this perfume most days and always get told I smell nice. I love the scent and people have commented saying it smells like me - I like that idea of having a signature scent.

First Aid Beauty Ultra Repair Cream - I just like how simple this is, and it seems to really do the job.

The Body Shop Skin Clearing Mask - Since I've been using this more I've noticed a real difference in my skin, plus it feels very refreshing.

Pixi Glow Mud Cleanser - I've been really enjoying washing my face using this recently, and my skin seems much clearer since I have been using it.

IT Cosmetics Your Skin But Better CC Cream - It does exactly what it promises. Your skin becomes better. There's good coverage, it feels light on the skin, and there SPF in it.

Marc Jacobs The Bronze Brush - The quality and shape of this brush make it perfect to apply your bronzer flawlessly.

Urban Decay Full Spectrum Palette - Despite everyone telling me I'd never use this palette and look ridiculous when I do, I get so much use of out it, and always get compliments on my eye makeup when I do. I wrote a full post on it here.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on these products if you've tried any of them out.

You can find my June Favourites Video below which includes some other lifestyle bits and bobs (and one more beauty product because I accidentally missed it out here).

I hope you had a great month!
Chloe x


Single Girl Thoughts on Dating Etiquette.

Who fancies a bit of dating chat from somebody who can't remember the last date they went on?! Because that's something I feel like discussing today.

So a bit of background, I am single, very single, it might be a yearly occurrence thT I steal a kiss from someone in a night club and if I do that's groundbreaking news in my life as a 25-year-old, so much so that I need to text my closest friends to let them know all about it. Yup. When I say single, I mean single, no dating anyone, not texting anyone, not even snapchatting anyone, and most certainly not sleeping with anyone.

Now, this is not entirely by choice, I'm not unhappy, but at the same time, nobody wants to be alone. I could also probably be more proactive about finding someone - but it's a lot less romantic dating someone that you hunted down.

My last relationship was a serious 3-year one which I expected to last forever, but it didn't and I ended it because something in my gut felt wrong. I'd fallen from love and stayed from habit. But it ended on good term, there was as little drama as you can get waving goodbye to three pretty happy years, and I stayed friends with my ex-boyfriend, because I still liked him as a person, and I wasn't going to just forget that. That was in 2014.

I came out of the relationship not looking for a new one, but open to finding one. Let's just say, I kept the door open and my legs closed. But nobody used the door.

And now, here we are. 2017.

Now, I am clearly not a dating expert, as I would assume that requires actually dating. But there are two pieces of dating/meeting people wisdom, I like to settle with - Firstly, if you have not read He's Just Not That Into You (v old full book review here), you need to. Stop making excuse for people to feel better about yourself, if someone is into you, you will sure as hell knows about. Secondly, don't play games, it's confusing and frustrating.

Recently, I decide I want to be a bit braver, and dip my toes into the dating sea. I very anti-dating apps, I just don't enjoy them, but I'm trying to be more open to meeting people, which is all good and well until I noticed some confliction in my two pieces only two pieces of 'wisdom' I have on the subject.

I definitely do not think, I should wait three days after I see a guy who's on my radar to text him, it's stupid and I cannot be assed, plus that's a game, I'm not playing. But surely if he were interested he'd be texting me anyway? Because that's what you do when you like someone unless you're playing games, and as much as I don't want to play games, I don't want to date someone who does.

How low on your sleeve should you wear your heart? Sure, show you're interested. That way everyone knows where they stand, plus it's fun to be interested in someone.  However there nothing worse than making tonnes of effort with someone who makes a minimal effort back. Nobody wants to be, or date that girl. So you've got to hold back, slightly, because you can't be too keen - but now you've stepped straight back into the game playing danger zone.

I tend to be pretty open about my feelings, and I think that it is more than acceptable for the girl to do the date asking, but at the same time, I want to date someone who likes me enough to ask me themselves.

And there's the whole humiliation v you'll never know unless you ask struggle. I'll sleep better if I ask someone whatever it is I'm holding back on because I feel like now I know, I can I move on, or take whatever my next step is. But the majority of the time my gut will tell me the answer, and so does the person, just without saying the words, sometimes in the silence. So is that piece of mind worth putting yourself out there, when they answer is in the air, do you want confirmation, that no, the boy you could possibly fancy one if he gives you the chance, won't give you the chance to fancy him.

People are just people, we should be able to speak to them like people, but sometimes we already know that answers so that doesn't matter regardless. But since when did having a crush on someone mean putting them so high on a pedestal that you can't have a normal adult conversation with them? And who the wants to date someone you've already decided is out of your league and you cannot talk to?

Also, men tend to assume if a girl show interest in them, she is, of course crazy - which is the most backwards thing I've ever heard. They are simply insulting themselves. The literally are saying someone must be losing their marble to like them. Girls get called obsessive, but I'm just going to say, as human, we obsess over things, and people naturally, if we like someone we think about them because we like them. I understand no one wants to feel like a museum exhibition, but we do get a bit giddy when we're feeling the start of romantic feelings. There is literally science to it. And why is it so offensive that somebody might want to invest there thoughts/time/emotions into you? No one wants to be branded the crazy girl - yet, it seems to me, the crazy girl isn't actually the one playing games. She crazy because you know damn right how she's feeling. And yes that can be intimidation, but at least you know where you stand.

In conclusion, the whole idea of attempting to date is bloody confusing, and I have no idea how to do


Finally, a work space.

If you watched my bedroom tour on my Youtube channel, you'll know I still live with my mum, and I have the smallest single bedroom - which is maybe a bit of a squeeze, but I love my little space. However I always felt the need for a desk, especially now I'm spending more time than ever blogging, and thinking about taking my first steps into the freelance work - of course, I always assumed I fitting a desk in my diddy bed was unrealistic, as I really don't have that much space.

However one day I leaving M&S and started eyeing up a pink lamp (we all know I've got a thing for pink), when my Mum pointed on what it was sat on... this desk - was small enough that it would actually fit in my little room, leaving me some space, and it matched room too - it was a no brainer. I measured up the space in front of my window to check and sure enough, it was going to fit with plenty of room to spare, so when payday came by I placed an order.

On arrival, I excited screwed the leg on and popped it in my room - it was a perfect size and the mixed of white and brown wood tied together the furniture I already had in my room. I bought a few little bits to help me organise the space, and search through my drawers for the stationary I have, that had been abandoned due to being hidden away in the draw.

My put my desk in front of my window, mainly because it's the only place I had room for it - I then realised I have space on my window seal, which is pretty much an extension of my desk, so my 'work' space feels a lot roomier than it actually is, and it's nice to look out of the window while on my laptop.

I really love this space! I feel a lot more productive and organised when I sit her, and I think it's just a really cute area of my room. What do you think?

Lamp (similar)
Paper Tray (John Lewis, not online)
Phone Stand
Diary (Kate Spade, Old)
Bullet Journal
Magnetic Lists
Little Book of Hygge
Almost Adulting
Zoella Lifestyle Stationary Book
MacBook Skin (20% off with the code chloeharriets20)

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